“Don’t split my attention when someone is talking to me. Listen when someone is saying something unpleasant to me. Don’t drown it out by chatter in my mind, or allow it to be drowned out by peripheral noise. When o when will I learn? This is a learning experience, I hope. I am a scaredycat, I must face reality better. Sit back and be calm, cool and collected. Don’t panic! Don’t cringe. And ask if you need to for clarification!” written in 2001