What might be a good first step to overcome destructive shyness? For me it was getting to know myself. I’d never done that, but when I was 42 and saw a psychologist, she said that I wasn’t well developed and had to go through adolescence! She recommended that I meditate on a regular basis about myself and how I relate to the world. Finally, and I describe it all Brave in the chapter Counsel and Epiphany, a voice from without told me that I was a part of universal love—that I belonged to the world. This calmed down my fears of people significantly, allowing me some peace and calm, enabling me to look at myself, to learn who I was. I asked myself questions such as: what activites do I like, who do I like, who and what do I dislike, what do I want to achieve, what are my goals, what do I talk about to people, who are my friends, what are my values, what do I want from people, how do I dress, what do I look like…. I wrote down as much as I could. I did this exercise several times over several months. Finally, I a person emerged, Me. It was pretty, pretty amazing. I was paying attention to myself! I was worthy of my attention! I was a worthwhile person! Whew, what a glorious first step. It’d be hard to find a more worthwhile endeavor.